As an example, you may feel that by listening without adding topics to the conversation that you are perceived as being interested and thoughtful. Instead, you may come across as dull and self-involved. You may feel that by sharing more than others do, you are perceived as open and honest. Instead, you may come across as burdensome and inappropriate. You may feel that by dominating the conversation with jokes and humor, others find you entertaining and lively. Instead,you may come across as tedious and draining.
What is the right balance? Ultimately, it is not up to you to decide, it is up to those you lead. How they see you is how you are seen.